The Reason Why My Friends Don't Understand Me?

A lot of times you might have wondered that your friends, partner or family members have no idea of who you really are. Being so close to you and for long enough, you expect them to certainly know you. But majority of them don't get you. It is the reason why you probably choose to open up with very few.

The reason I could think of is them knowing every low level detail about you. What did you eat at lunch, your favorite sport, your college time stories, how you say certain words. They know it all. Its these little things about you which obstructs them from actually getting to know what are you all about. Very few people can actually see the big picture. The rest of them would be surprised when you do something that they could not imagine you doing. You come as a shock to them. Many would say that you've changed a lot or what happened to you suddenly. But you know you were always this person. 

There can be multiple reasons as well. The place where we are often taken for granted is our home. We don't mind that of course. Or never among our friends do we want to look attention hungry. This creates very less chance for the other person to get inside your mind. 

To actually know someone, you don't have to be close to them but distant. To see things for what they are, you need some distance. You don't need to get entangled in small details but broadly understand from where they are coming from. You have to give equal chance to them in your mind. Respect their individuality, their decisions, thier privacy, their freedom and their lives.